Happy New Year to my fellow Army Brats. I hope this year is a happy and successful one for you!
I don’t know about you, but I always start the new year feeling enthusiastic about the prospect of a fresh start; an opportunity to make changes and do things different.
This year like every year I’m working towards feeling more content. Like many army brats, I struggle with the feeling that I don’t belong anywhere . Can’t quite settle down. Every few years I get an urge to be on the move. That niggling army brat itch; reminding me that there is someplace else I should be; other things out there waiting for me. This year however my aim is to finally feel more ‘at home’ in one place..
Why Army Brats may struggle with finding contentment
I guess this sense of restlessness that many of us army brats feel is largely a product of being brought up within a military culture that’s about ‘not staying in one place for very long and always moving forward’. Moving around a lot from an early age teaches you to expect and thrive on change. Perhaps not surprising then, that many ex army brats find it difficult to physically settle in adulthood.
Following these Steps will help you feel more satisfied with life
Having given this a lot of thought. This year, I’m going to approach things different, instead of focusing on ‘where I could be’ I’m going to spend more time on finding satisfaction in where I am at present. Research suggests 3 key things to help with this journey…
Change your mental attitude
The key to feeling more settled is to put down roots. Focus less on wishing things were different; “things will get better when I move somewhere else; change my job etc..” and start to notice all the good things you have about your current situation (your great friends, the comfortable home you’ve made, the attractive things about the town you live). Making a conscious choice to appreciate and enjoy your surroundings more will help with putting down roots because you will feel more committed.
Actively seek out more new experiences
You don’t always have to physically uproot to satisfy your urge for change in your life. Committing more time to pursuing your interests; trying out new activities, learning new skills, seeing more new places and general personal growth can make you feel you are progressing with your life and give a greater sense of fulfillment.
Re-balance your life style
Feeling dissatisfied with your lot can often stem from the fact that you know you are capable of greater things and could be doing more with your life. A key to greater satisfaction with life is to make sure your day to day holds purpose and meaning. Rather than following a life style you think others expect you to lead, make sure your way of life reflects ‘who you are’. A good starting point is to assess your values. See this article from mind tools for really helpful advice about how to decide what it is you care most about in life.
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